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No Sex Outside Marriage

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Everything is composed of small units,just like a house is built with bricks

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Likewise,society consists of multiples of a small unit

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which is the family a man and a woman are joined by a bond to form a complete unit.

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Despite its dislike of divorce,Islam permits

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 it as a necessary remedy when things go wrong

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It encourages the preservation of the family

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because it is the most important institution in human society.

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Sex outside the marriage bond reduces the family into an institution that imposes unnecessary burdens

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Why should a man fork out money and take on responsibilities

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when he can have his pleasure in casual relations that are easily terminated

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just like one uses discards a used disposable napkin?

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Nothing is more detrimental to proper relations and the family institution than the radical

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and polarized movements that marginalise the other sex

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Feminist movements start with a premise that is contrary to the nature of women

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They imagine that they help women when they advocate free and unrestricted sex

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They call on women to behave exactly like men

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regardless of the physiological and psychological differences between the two sexes.

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This has led to the emergence of a generation that considers the marital relation

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too restrictive,when it is the fundamental bond that promotes social security

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This generation asks

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why should one burden oneself with children and commitments?

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The question is:where does this lead us?

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The result is that 16%of world children grow up with only one parent

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The figure is even higher in Western countries which do not encourage the continuity of the family

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In the United States

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the figure goes as high as 35%which means that over one-third of the children of the most powerful state in the world

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grow up in an unhealthy family environment

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.80%of such children live in families where the mother is the only parent

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while their fathers leave to find other women

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In Canada,the figure is 22%while it is 21.5%in Britain

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It is the children that suffer most as a result

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Studies show that divorce and the breakup of the family leave adverse effects on children

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as they feel unsettled

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excitable and unsociable

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in addition to having problems with their studies.

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Islam describes marriage in fine terms

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as in the Qur'anic verse that says

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Among God’s signs is that He creates for you spouses out of your own kind,so that you might incline towards them,

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and He engenders love and tenderness between you.In this there are clear signs indeed for people who think.’(30:21)

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 Islam rejects the culture of free and unrestricted sex

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which reduces the fine relationship between husband and wife to something akin to a takeaway meal

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It then aims to satisfy a transitory desire

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instead of being the result of a rational decision to form a life partnership

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It becomes subject to a whim of a person who has taken too much drink

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Court cases of rape show hard debate between those who consider sex

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under the influence of alcohol by one party as rape of the other

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and those who consider it a consentious action

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saying that everyone is responsible for their deeds

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whether they are drunk or sober

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The debate continues even when neither party is drunk because fierce contention continues in rape cases

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The evidence that courts have to consider in these cases

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is not different from a situation in which the two parties are in consent

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In today’s fast-food culture

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it is extremely difficult for a woman to prove that she had not consented

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Hence,the overwhelming majority of rapists escape punishment

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According to statistics,the figure is 80-90%.

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To protect society from all these problems

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Islam establishes clear boundaries

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forbidding all sex outside the marriage bond.

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The Qur'an accurately describes the consequences of free sex

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Do not come near adultery.It is indeed an abomination and an evil way.’(17:32)

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Marriage is the only sound relationship between man and woman

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In all situations where men and women are together

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as in the workplace or other social contacts

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Islam requires women to wear the hijab

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It thus elevates the woman from being a sex object

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‘Among God’s signs is that He creates for you spouses out of your own kind

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so that you might incline towards them,and He engenders love and tenderness between you.In this there are clear signs indeed for people who think.’(30:21)